So you've just met that special someone and you want to
show them how much you care? Or maybe you're married and
you just want to break the routine and rekindle that spark
you had as newlyweds. Why not try aphrodisiacs? Sure, we've
probably all heard about rhinoceros horns, snake blood,
monkey brains and such but what average person actually
has access to that stuff? In all honesty, most people wouldn't
want to have these things in their home. So maybe you want
something simpler, something you can pick up at the local
grocery, something easy to prepare. But you don't know where
An aphrodisiac is defined as "causing
or increasing sexual desire".
Perhaps you are just looking to increase your own sexual
desire, boost your self-esteem, make yourself feel sexier.
Or maybe you're looking to spark a little love flame in
your significant other. Whatever you're hoping to accomplish,
with so many things out there to choose from you are sure
to find something to suit your needs.
One basic rule in selecting foods is to be sure it looks
expensive. This signals to the other person you must care
a lot for them. According to common wisdom, almost any seafood
works well, especially oysters and clams. Many nuts and
fruits such as grapes, pine nuts, ginkgo, betel nut, walnut,
quince, and a fruit called coco-de-mer that closely resembles
a certain part of the female anatomy and is also very stimulating
when consumed. Several vegetables such as beans and peas,
celery, asparagus, fennel, leek, onions, radish and truffles
have also been known to act as aphrodisiacs. Mushrooms are
by far the favorite vegetable. There are many different
kinds, each with it's own story and purpose. Spices are
great to add flavor to your food but many can also be aphrodisiacs.
Asafoetida, also known as devil's dung, ferula, or hing,
is a light brown powder and has an unusual taste, you either
love it or hate it. According to traditional Indian herbal
medicine, Cardamom seeds boiled with milk is a great remedy
for impotence and premature ejaculation when taken together
with honey. Cloves, garlic, ginger, nutmeg, pepper, saffron,
vanilla, and just plain table salt are also used. Some herbal
spices include mint, rosemary, salvia and thyme. Foods should
also be light and not leave you feeling over-stuffed. Having
a bursting gut will make you feel very unsexy and it leaves
you feeling sluggish. You can find recipes on the internet
or in one of the many books out there. Some to check out
are: "Herbal Love Potions: The Magic & Ritual Uses of Aphrodisiac
Herbs" by W.E. Lee and Lynn Lee, "Food as Foreplay: Recipes
for Romance, Love and Lust" by Ellen Albertson and Michael
Miracle, and "Aphrodisiac Cooking" by Bruce Carlson.
Perhaps you want some candles or incense burning in the
background and a little something to apply to yourself.
Jasmine has long been known for its affects, it is considered
a great cure for frigidity in women. Other great scents
are sandalwood, cinnamon and frankincense. Some people like
to use raw eggs as a massage lotion. Only you can decide
what will work for you.
State of Mind
But probably the number one aphrodisiac is your own state
of mind. If you feel sexy, you will be sexy. This will in
turn, cause your partner to feel sexier. Think sexy thoughts
or talk dirty to your partner. Some couples like to use
toys or play a game as foreplay. You could call your partner
at work during the day before your special evening and give
him a preview of what's to come. Or put a love letter in
his pocket or briefcase. Buy a sexy new outfit to wear or
some lingerie, whatever makes you feel you look good. Get
your hair done, or a manicure. You can even give each other
a sensual massage. All the preparation for what you know
is going to come will be an aphrodisiac in itself.
Just remember to relax, be confident, and keep in mind why
it is you want to do this. What is it that attracts you
to this person? Put yourself in a sexual mood and then just
let it flow. And remember to have fun, because that's really
what it's all about.